Beyond the Everyday and Standing on the Edge of the Unknown: Inviting and Awakening the Power of Awe in Men
- Mark Pitcher
- Apr 18
- 12 min read
Imagine a man standing alone at the base of a towering waterfall. The deafening roar, the cool mist on his face, the unyielding power of the cascades: his breath catches in his throat for a moment. He feels small yet strangely connected to something larger than himself. This moment is fleeting but profound—Awe (Anderson et al., 2018).
Introduction
In our modern world, men are often encouraged to be confident, controlled, and self-reliant (Brown, 2015). While these traits have value, they can sometimes overshadow softer, more expansive emotions that enrich our lives. Among the most potent overlooked experiences is awe—a sense of wonder so deep that it reconfigures our sense of self, catalyses humility, and illuminates a broader perspective (Keltner and Haidt, 2003).
In the fast-paced modern world, men often struggle with responsibilities, goals, and social expectations that can limit their capacity for wonder and self-reflection (Piff et al., 2015). Pursuing professional success, family leadership, and social acceptance can sometimes overshadow deeper emotional needs, particularly the profound sense of awe that shapes our most meaningful experiences (Stellar et al., 2018). While "awe" may evoke images of majestic landscapes or transcendent spiritual moments, it is, at its core, an emotional experience marked by a sense of vastness and the urge to accommodate new understandings (Keltner, 2024). Yet, discussions of awe in men's lives are still relatively scarce in popular discourse on masculinity and emotional health (Bai et al., 2017).
This post explores the power of awe as an everyday and extraordinary tool for men's holistic well-being. By examining its biological, psychological, cultural, and spiritual dimensions, we can more fully appreciate awe's transformative potential. We will also investigate how cultivating awe can lead to stronger physical health, greater emotional resilience, more profound spiritual connection, and more authentic relationships—all cornerstones of a fulfilling life, transcending limiting masculine stereotypes (van de Goor et al., 2020).
Awe's Meaning in the Context of Modern Positive Masculinity
Masculinity Revisited
Traditional cultural narratives have often portrayed men as stoic, unwavering, and solitary (Brown, 2015). Over time, however, a growing chorus of researchers and thought leaders has begun to challenge this narrow script, proposing a broader version of masculinity—one that celebrates emotional fluency, empathy, cooperation, and reverence for life's mysteries (Zeng et al., 2023; Goleman, 2007).
Awe fits perfectly into this vision of positive masculinity. Instead of viewing vulnerability or reverence as weaknesses, men can view these qualities as gateways to deeper emotional intelligence, creativity, and connection. By its nature, awe humbles us (Stellar et al., 2018). It reminds us that we are neither omnipotent nor isolated. This fresh perspective can help men break free from the "tough guy" stereotype and recognise the inherent power of open-heartedness (Bai et al., 2017).
What Is Awe, Exactly?
Awe is often described by two principal features: an encounter with something perceived as vast—physically, conceptually, or symbolically—and an intense need to adjust one's mental frameworks to comprehend the experience (Shiota et al., 2007). This could arise upon witnessing natural wonders, standing in a grand cathedral, hearing a soul-stirring piece of music, or reflecting on the vastness of space (Chirico and Gaggioli, 2017). For men frequently socialised to prioritise logic, control, and self-reliance, the sense of smallness or humility awe brings can be both unsettling and liberating (Bai et al., 2017).
Distinguishing Awe From Related Emotions
Awe is sometimes conflated with wonder, admiration, or reverence (Keltner and Haidt, 2003). While these emotions may share overlapping qualities, awe's hallmark is its transformative quality: it compels people to reinterpret themselves or the world around them in light of something grander than their everyday routines (Yaden et al., 2017). Many men experience awe sporadically—perhaps during once-in-a-lifetime trips or in moments of intense spiritual or athletic performances—yet seldom is awe intentionally cultivated in day-to-day life (Anderson et al., 2018).
Awe Through the Ages
Throughout history, awe has been a defining element of cultural identity and spiritual practice. Ancient mythologies brimming with epic heroes, floods, and thunderbolts reflect humankind's reverence for forces beyond our control (Keltner, 2024). From the Greek concept of "trauma" (wonder) to indigenous storytelling rituals worldwide, awe was viewed not merely as entertainment but as a guiding principle, a moral compass, and even a gateway to the sacred (Yaden et al., 2017).
In modern times, men are less likely to attend communal gatherings designed to invoke awe; ironically, we remain fascinated by it in more secular forms, such as cinematic spectacles, extreme sports, or technological marvels (Chirico and Gaggioli, 2017). While these contemporary pathways can be thrilling, they may lack the consistent, integrative quality that fosters personal growth. Rather than fleeting adrenaline moments, a more deliberate, mindful engagement with awe can guide men to a more balanced, introspective, and authentically connected way of living (van de Goor et al., 2020).
Awe's Biological and Neurological Dimensions
The Brain in Awe
Recent advances in neuroscience shed light on why awe feels so invigorating. Experiencing awe activates regions in the frontal cortex associated with higher cognitive functions, like perspective-taking and problem-solving, and it also engages subcortical systems tied to emotion and reward (Davidson, 2012; LeDoux, 1998). This synchronised pattern can produce heightened awareness, self-transcendence, and euphoria (Shiota et al., 2007).
Endorphins, Dopamine, and Parasympathetic Activation
The hormonal "cocktail" involved in awe includes a surge of endorphins and dopamine, which enhance pleasure, learning, and motivation (Csikszentmihalyi, 2008). Furthermore, parasympathetic nervous system activation leads to lowered heart rate and reduced stress hormones like cortisol (Stellar et al., 2018). For men living with chronic job pressures or societal expectations, this calming effect can be a potent remedy against anxiety and the toll it takes on the body (Fredrickson, 2001; Seligman, 2011).
Cultural and Social Interpretations
Historical Perspectives on Awe
Historically, Societies have revered awe-inspiring experiences through myths, religious ceremonies, and heroic tales (Keltner, 2024). Images of warriors encountering the divine, pilgrims travelling to sacred sites, and philosophers grappling with the cosmos highlight how awe was a catalyst for personal transformation and communal identity (Yaden et al., 2017). In modern contexts, men may find fewer culturally sanctioned spaces to express reverence or vulnerability, as typical male norms can equate "strong" with emotional restraint (Brown, 2015).
Modern Challenges to Men Expressing Reverence
Societal norms sometimes discourage men from openly expressing wonder or awe, labelling such displays as naïve or overly sentimental (Stellar et al., 2018). For instance, a man who cries upon hearing a moving symphony or proclaims his awe at sunset might be perceived as "unmanly." Yet recent social science scholarship underscores that these emotional experiences can enhance empathy and foster a more profound sense of belonging (Zeng et al., 2023; Piff et al., 2015).
Awe as a Catalyst for Physical Health
Stress Reduction and Immunity
Chronic stress is a well-documented risk factor for heart disease, hypertension, and weakened immunity (Fredrickson, 2001). Awe mitigates these risks by steering the body toward relaxation and improved immunological function (Anderson et al., 2018). A man who regularly seeks out awe-inspiring experiences—like gazing at the night sky, meditating by a forest stream, or contemplating inspiring art—may see tangible benefits in his blood pressure, hormonal balance, and energy levels (Fredrickson et al., 2003).
Case Illustration
Consider Marco, a 45-year-old sales manager who starts each morning exhausted and ends each day wound tight. At a friend's suggestion, he commits to taking a 20-minute walk in a nearby park—no phone, no music—solely to observe the sunrise. Initially sceptical, he soon finds that absorbing the natural wonder unfolding before him significantly lightens his racing thoughts. Within weeks, Marco sleeps better, feels more patient at work, and even notices improved stamina when playing basketball with his kids. Although anecdotal, Marco's story aligns with empirical findings on awe's power to reduce stress and boost vitality (Anderson et al., 2018).
Awe's Emotional and Psychological Dimensions
Expanding Perspective, Dismantling Ego
Moments of Awe challenge the boundaries of our self-perception. By confronting us with something immeasurably larger—a star-filled sky or an act of profound moral courage—, awe encourages humility and reduces self-focused rumination (Stellar et al., 2018). This break from the ego-dominated narrative is significant for modern men, who are frequently socialised to prioritise self-sufficiency and personal achievement above all else (Bai et al., 2017).
Fostering Creativity and Problem-Solving
On the flip side of humility lies a broader imaginative capacity. When men experience awe, they often become more open to novel ideas, more flexible in thinking, and more apt to consider innovative solutions (Keltner and Haidt, 2003). If you've ever felt a surge of inspiration after gazing upon a breathtaking landscape—or emerged from an awe-inspiring concert brimming with creative energy—then you've already tasted awe's capacity to rewire the mind for originality (Csikszentmihalyi, 2008).
Countering Isolation and Defensiveness
In a world where mental health challenges like depression, anxiety, and social withdrawal loom large, awe can help combat the loneliness men sometimes feel when they keep their vulnerabilities hidden (Brown, 2015). Experiencing awe with others—whether marvelling at a meteor shower or participating in an immersive artistic performance—can forge connections rooted in shared wonder (Piff et al., 2015). Such communal awe transcends competition, fosters empathy, and reminds men they are part of a broader human narrative (Zeng et al., 2023).
Awe and Spiritual Connection
Sacred Moments for the Secular and the Devout
Awe has long been intertwined with religious rituals—from ancient altars to modern pilgrimages (Keltner, 2024). But while some men find transcendence in organised faith, others may discover it in less institutionalised contexts: the hush of a forest, the hush of a cathedral in the twilight, or the hush of one's mind in meditative stillness (Yaden et al., 2017). Regardless of the setting, awe can trigger feelings of unity, gratitude, and reverence—emotions many would describe as spiritual or meaningful (Emmons, 2007).
A Sense of Purpose and Meaning
Far from being airy or abstract, spiritual awe often translates into a sharpened sense of purpose (Seligman, 2011). Men who regularly engage in awe-inspiring practices frequently report greater motivation to serve their communities, be present with their families, and pursue personal goals that align with deeper values (van de Goor et al., 2020). This resonates with the broader framework of positive masculinity: harnessing innate strengths, like courage and dedication, to uplift others and foster communal well-being (Zeng et al., 2023).
Awe's Role in Interpersonal and Social Relationships
Collective Experiences of Awe
One of awe's greatest gifts is its power to unite. Experiencing awe in a group—attending a stirring concert, visiting a national park, or witnessing an extraordinary scientific discovery—can break down social barriers and forge new connections (Bai et al., 2017). Men who see themselves reflected in the shared amazement of others often discover new depths of empathy, solidarity, and mutual support (Piff et al., 2015).
Bolstering Emotional Intelligence
Emotional intelligence involves recognising and navigating emotions while empathising with others (Goleman, 2005). We can sharpen this skill by nudging men away from self-centred concerns and toward a broader understanding of the human experience (Stellar et al., 2018). For example, witnessing another person's awe, seeing a child marvel at a butterfly emerging from its chrysalis, can be as impactful as experiencing awe oneself, fostering a compassionate bond that transcends differences in age or background (Goleman, 2007).
Modern Positive Masculinity in Action
A man who embraces awe does not see softness or curiosity as antithetical to strength. Instead, he realises that wonder and vulnerability broaden his emotional repertoire and deepen his relationships (Brown, 2015). Such men can become role models for a new kind of leadership that balances ambition with humility, decisiveness with empathy, and personal achievement with a larger communal vision (Zeng et al., 2023).
Cultivating Awe
Exposure to Nature, Art, Music, and Ritual
Men can integrate awe into their lives by intentionally seeking natural vistas, exploring museums, attending live musical performances, or participating in community ceremonies (Anderson et al., 2018). Even in urban environments, finding pockets of natural beauty—a public park or a botanical garden—can spark small yet potent moments of wonder (Fredrickson, 2001).
Mindfulness and Daily Reflections
Simple mindfulness exercises—such as pausing to observe the sky for a full minute or closely examining the intricate details of a leaf—can amplify awe in everyday settings (Davidson, 2012). Journaling about awe-inspiring experiences or sharing them with loved ones can further anchor those moments in memory, encouraging men to repeat such practices (Seligman, 2011).
Awe as a Practice: Strategies and Exercises
Cultivating awe does not require an exotic vacation or a life-altering event. With some intention and openness, we can invite awe into everyday life. Below are several practical exercises that men (and people of all genders) can integrate into their routines.
1. Micro-Pilgrimages
Description: Designate a short walk or bike ride—preferably in a natural setting or historic part of town—as a "micro-pilgrimage."
Practice: Pause at intervals to observe and reflect: Are there textures, colours, or sounds that evoke wonder? Has anything in your surroundings shifted how you see yourself or your day?
Rationale: Such micro-adventures offer a mental and emotional break from the ordinary, encouraging a shift in perspective (Chirico and Gaggioli, 2017).
2. Mindful Observation
Description: Pick a single object—a leaf, a seashell, or even a book cover—and spend several minutes examining it quietly.
Practice: Notice patterns, shapes, and colours. Consider the natural or human processes that created it. Let curiosity deepen your appreciation for the object's uniqueness.
Rationale: This exercise fosters a sense of discovery in the mundane, honing the ability to find awe in everyday life (Davidson, 2012).
3. Awe Journaling
Description: Keep a small notebook to record daily moments that inspire wonder.
Practice: Write down details about what happened, how you felt, and any shifts in perspective.
Rationale: Documenting awe primes the mind to look for more awe-inspiring experiences, solidifying the habit (Seligman, 2011).
4. Awe-Sharing Circles
Description: Gather with friends or family, either in person or virtually, to share a story, photo, or personal reflection that elicits awe.
Practice: Each participant has a few minutes to describe a recent awe moment—no interruptions or judgments allowed.
Rationale: Sharing awe enhances social connection and normalises emotional openness among men (Piff et al., 2015).
5. Creative Immersion
Description: Immerse yourself in an art form you usually overlook: classical music, jazz, dance, sculpture, or poetry.
Practice: Listen or observe fully, allowing the artistry to evoke a sense of wonder or introspection.
Rationale: Artistic expressions can jolt us out of routine thinking, sparking insights and emotions that expand our sense of the possible (Csikszentmihalyi, 2008).
Conclusion
Awe is neither a luxury nor an emotion reserved for special occasions or grand spectacles. It is a profound, life-affirming force that can permeate our daily experiences if we seek it (Keltner and Haidt, 2003). Awe is an expansive, profoundly human emotion that can reshape men's physical health, emotional resilience, and spiritual depth (Shiota et al., 2007). By stepping beyond the everyday and daring to stand on the edge of the unknown, men can unlock awe's transformative influence—illuminating the richness of the world and their place within it (Keltner and Haidt, 2003). From being a sign of weakness or lack of practicality, awe can ground men's sense of self in humility and interconnectedness. It can spur creativity, foster empathy, and guide them toward more meaningful relationships and a healthier mind and body (Bai et al., 2017; Piff et al., 2015). For men primarily, reclaiming awe represents an important step in evolving beyond narrow definitions of masculinity—definitions too often stifle curiosity, emotional vulnerability, and communion with the larger world (Brown, 2015; Bai et al., 2017).
By welcoming awe into our lives, we discover that strength and sensitivity are not opposites but complementary dimensions of being fully human (Zeng et al., 2023). We learn that humility, creativity, and communal bonds can enhance, not diminish, our sense of self-worth. Ultimately, awe offers a portal to deeper physical health, emotional intelligence, spiritual insight, and relational harmony. It nudges us to stand on the edge of the unknown, not with trepidation but with reverence, curiosity, and hope (van de Goor et al., 2020). In moving beyond cultural stereotypes, men can discover awe's profound potential to heal, inspire, and unite, ultimately fostering greater well-being on every level.
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Pitcher, E. Mark. (2025, April 17). Beyond the Everyday and Standing on the Edge of the Unknown: Inviting and Awakening the Power of Awe in Men. Beyond Brotherhood. https://www.beyondbrotherhood.ca/post/beyond-the-everyday-and-standing-on-the-edge-of-the-unknown-inviting-and-awakening-the-power-of-aw
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